Suggestions to children for development
being nurtured
learn, develop, find yourself (who you are), learn the true meaning of love,
friendships
school trips
trusting peers
when you go through puberty
physically develop, can be rapid changes, hormones can make your outlook change, but you are also learning about life and this takes longer - which is why adults MUST still respect you as a child in terms of how they behave to you physically
enjoy these years
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a confusing time, many changes, learning about sex, but you must be nurtured to not confuse sexual drive with the love that you have already learned about
don't experiment with adults, certainly not over 18 - they WILL be abusing you. You have an absolute right to develop and explore the world for yourself, with others who are developing too.
dont respond to anyone - including any family and known friends of the family - who responds to your development by encouraging sexual contact. They WILL be abusing you.
dont experiment with anyone who hasnt yet developed to the extent that you have. You WILL be unintentionally abusing them
dont feel a need to
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Roles of a person in authority
Nuture, not control
Allow to make mistakes
Allow to freethink, protect from harm
Celebrate aptitudes, even if not yours
Emotional construct
No emotional blackmail
Show unconditional love
No sexualisation
Never show sexualised feelings or love
Never respond to sexual advances
Guide sexual learning 'outside family'
Clarity, not manipulation
Guiding through values
Clear when and why something wrong
Hide your own insecurities
Healthy touch
Pure thought in your touch
Encourage play and sport with peers
No physical harm
Never retaliate with aggression
No punishments or torture
No physical control (unless to protect)
assess yourself
are you at risk of abusing?
safe, no trace kept
improve your self-awareness
do your thoughts worry you?
is your behavior abuse?
how abuse hurts and kills
actions can ruin lives
the impact of abuse
the trauma of abuse
healthy childhood denied
lives lost
getting help
get confidential help
non-judgemental
no legal link, unless others at risk
preventing generational cycle
seeking support is a positive step