Suggestions to children for development


being nurtured

learn, develop, find yourself (who you are), learn the true meaning of love,

friendships

school trips

trusting peers


when you go through puberty

physically develop, can be rapid changes, hormones can make your outlook change, but you are also learning about life and this takes longer - which is why adults MUST still respect you as a child in terms of how they behave to you physically

enjoy these years

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a confusing time, many changes, learning about sex, but you must be nurtured to not confuse sexual drive with the love that you have already learned about

don't experiment with adults, certainly not over 18 - they WILL be abusing you. You have an absolute right to develop and explore the world for yourself, with others who are developing too.

dont respond to anyone - including any family and known friends of the family - who responds to your development by encouraging sexual contact. They WILL be abusing you.

dont experiment with anyone who hasnt yet developed to the extent that you have. You WILL be unintentionally abusing them

dont feel a need to

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Roles of a person in authority

Nuture, not control

Allow to make mistakes

Allow to freethink, protect from harm

Celebrate aptitudes, even if not yours

Emotional construct

No emotional blackmail

Show unconditional love

No sexualisation

Never show sexualised feelings or love

Never respond to sexual advances

Guide sexual learning 'outside family'

Clarity, not manipulation

Guiding through values

Clear when and why something wrong

Hide your own insecurities

Healthy touch

Pure thought in your touch

Encourage play and sport with peers

No physical harm

Never retaliate with aggression

No punishments or torture

No physical control (unless to protect)

assess yourself


are you at risk of abusing?

safe, no trace kept

improve your self-awareness

do your thoughts worry you?

is your behavior abuse?

assess yourself

how abuse hurts and kills


actions can ruin lives

the impact of abuse

the trauma of abuse

 healthy childhood denied

lives lost

read about impact

getting help


get confidential help

non-judgemental

  no legal link, unless others at risk 

preventing generational cycle

seeking support is a positive step

what help exists