Impact on the abused

delayed, or accelerated, puberty. either way, an altered development will create complexities

denied love of other family members, lack of mother's love,

experience of mother being controlled - lessen value of woman, awkwardness with women, I became a tool in his control of my mother

difficulty in freely expressing thoughts and emotions

self-harm (not me)

self-hatred .. used to look in eyes in mirror and say 'i hate you' .. self-blame

dissociation

blanking out of memories .. loss of access to good times

loss of 'normal' childhood experiences and learning - friendships, sexual exploration,

sexualisation of relationships .. love versus lust

question sexual orientation

mental health - suicidal, anxiety, depression, breakdown

the need to confront the past .. can be long process, with complex trauma counselling

other impacts for me

eyesight

sweating

friendships .. jealousy - the love triangle

small talk

social awkwardness

addictions (alcoholism, drugs, smoking)